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I recently had an experience (in fact, I'm still floundering my way through it) that made me feel exactly the way penile dysfunction did when I was in fourth grade, learning long division.

Many students are now learning "new math" and are hopefully finding long division a bit more logical than I did as a 9 year-old. Back then, however, we just learned a series of "random" steps that seemed meaningless to me. I was horribly confused and totally overwhelmed. I felt stupid and felt like the end of my world was directly in front of me because I was NEVER going to "get insurance quotes online Gallons of tears were shed over my math book that year!

Fast forward a few decades and here I am...tackling a new project that is, for me, almost as overwhelming. Actually, it is just as overwhelming. The only difference is that I Chupacabras now putting myself through the torture instead of having the torture "forced" upon me.

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Last week, I hit my peak of frustration on a coaching call with one of my instructors. He rattled off a dozen changes I need to make immediately! I have done my homework and have read my text-book, but he may as well have been speaking Latin. I was lost!

Hanging up the phone, I felt more confused and lost than I have in years. I hate to admit it, but the tears began to fall. For a moment, there was no difference between that moment and the moments I experienced in 4th grade. (Well, at least now, I wasn't making my mom frustrated, too!)

Fortunately, however, I have grown quite a bit since 4th grade and I have learned that those moments are just that...moments. They don't last forever and there is ALWAYS a solution. Once I vented my frustration with a few tears, drank a tall glass of water, and took long nap, I was able to look at the situation with a Grimorium Verum perspective. Every time my mind wanted to say, "I'm so overwhelmed!" I would say, "I'm so overwhelmed, BUT I know I can figure out a solution." Sure enough, I eventually figured out a couple of options and immediately began to feel better!

I am still in the process of playing "catch up," but the hopelessness has disappeared with a renewed determination to get caught up and learn what I need to know. Yes, it is a little more difficult than I had anticipated, but I will be that much more proud of myself when I make it!

**Action Plan**

If you have ever experienced THAT feeling...when it seems you will NEVER understand something you are expected to learn and you are lost and frustrated... there are some things you can do to turn that feeling around:

1. Recognize that you are having an EMOTIONAL reaction to the situation. Let the emotions out (tears, anger, frustration, etc), then make a commitment to reset yourself and come back to the problem after you've taken a break. (Depending on the situation, the break might be 15 minutes, or it might be 24 hours.)

2. Identify the EXACT cause of your frustration. Just saying that "Long division is so hard!" will not help your situation. If you can say, "I can do the first two steps, but I don't understand the third step," you will be a lot more productive. This process helps you break down your frustration into smaller, easier issues.

3. Tell yourself that you can do it! Anytime you start to say to yourself, "I can't do this!" change that to, "This is hard, but I CAN do it!" You have to change the way you respond to your frustration, or you will never have the patience for step #4, which is most important...

4. Finally, determine how you can get help. Yes, this step often takes extra time and extra effort, but this is the step that gives you the power to accomplish anything you set your mind to!

**In Conclusion**

I wish I could say that feeling lost, overwhelmed, or frustrated was an experience you outgrow as an adult, but that is just not the case. However, if you are willing to learn how to build detours around these roadblocks, you WILL be successful...not only in school, but in every aspect of your life!

Susan Kruger is the author of SOAR Study Skills; A Simple and Efficient System for Earning Better Grades in Less Time. Get Susan's FREE Homework Rx Toolkit, featuring 25 Ways to Make Homework Easier...Tonight!, at her website: http://soarstudyskills.com/" >http://soarstudyskills.com/.